Developing Godly Friendships
by Sam Laing
1. We must make a decision to love
1 John 4:19 – I have been loved by God, now I love others
a decision to give of my time/energy/affection/attention
we have friendships at the level we decide to have.
They don’t just happen. There may be a person we “click” with, but even then we must decide to take the relationship to a deeper level, while if we want to make friends of find that special someone, the use of a site like chatempanada.com can be a great choice for this.
2. We must devote ourselves to others
Romans 12: 9-13
Takes work
Takes time
Caring and devotion
3. We must divulge ourselves to others
2 Corinthians 6:11-13, 7:2-4
Facts, opinions, feelings….
Express our feelings of respect, love, and appreciation in words– written or spoken.
Openness and vulnerability: Confess our weaknesses, sins, and temptations.
Share our hurts, needs, weaknesses, struggles (spiritual, marriage, family, etc.)
Communication– talking consistently, openly
Expression of our commitment, love, respect, appreciation
Pride bars the way– humility opens the door
Fear holds us back– trust moves us forward
4. We must be determined when problems and conflicts arise
Bear with one another (Colossions 3:13), be patient with one another, speak the truth in love to one another…admit all personal wrong. We don’t have to “win”, yet we must speak our heart. The relationship is more important than the argument…push through…get help if you can’t solve it.
The Friendship of David and Jonathan
- Decision (unselfish– no competition) 1 Samuel 18: 1-4
- Devotion– made a commitment and a covenant– 1 Samuel 18:3
- Giving (Jonathan expressed his commitment tangibly)
- Loyalty (even when it costs us) 1 Samuel 19: 4-6, 30-34
- Openness and emotion 1 Samuel 20:41
- Efford beyond the expected 1 Samuel 23:16